Expect The Un Expected
What happens when you suddenly happen to lose someone very close and dear to you? It may be unfortunate but these things do happen in real life. Life they say is very short and unpredictable. How very true. You may wake up one day to find that your entire world has turned upside down or that your life has changed with the departure of a loved one. Loss of a spouse is perhaps most damaging to the surviving partner. We do not normally think of death and that we may have to live our life alone without our spouse. The thought can be actually frightening and we cannot imagine a life without the people we love and depend upon.
Grief is a very strange feeling. The death of a loved one or a spouse always brings grief. We grieve over the loss of the loved one true. But think again. Is it really the loss of the person that you are grieving? In many cases when a husband dies or a wife passes along, the other partner grieves the loss. There can be two aspects to this grief. One is the real sense of loss of the loved one in one’s life and the other is to do with the utility or functional value of that person in one’s daily life. If the income provider of the family departs, the grief also includes the fact that there is going to be a loss of steady income and the other individual will now have to think of earning. The wife may also grieve for the fact that she would now have to shoulder the responsibility of managing the home and the family and the spouse is not available to take on the responsibility.
Sudden death of a spouse brings about a kind of numbing shock to the surviving partner. It takes a while for the person to accept the fact that the other partner is no longer physically alive. Grief and disbelieve pours in waves. Mind does not accept the fact the person cannot come back into your life again. Though the surviving partner may deal with the relatives and talk about the partner’s death, it takes a little while for the reality to settle in and the mind to accept the reality.
Women we find are better suited to cope with the loss of a husband far better than men. It is a known fact that men are not used to showing their grief and do not know how to acknowledge their feelings. If a man were to lose his spouse when he is in his fifties, then life can become hard for him to deal with. It is quite possible that he is on the thresh hold of andropause and the resultant reduction of male hormone production in the body can induce depression and loss of vitality in the individual. When the man is going through a crisis, the last thing that he needs is the sudden loss of his partner and life can become a real challenge in such cases.
These things may sound bizarre but nevertheless true. It happens to many people. Life takes unexpected turns when you least expect it. These incidents may leave their scar, but they prove to be the turning points in our lives and our life often takes a new path and a new journey. The only way to live life is to be in the present and make the most of your life at this point of time without thinking of the past or worrying about the future.